Sleeping
Everyone has different theories on getting babies to sleep. Ryan has developed a new habit of waking up ever 4-5 hours throughout the night to eat. He has also started waking up soon after going to sleep for the night.
Well, some books say you should teach your child to put themselves to sleep by placing them in their cribs while they are still awake, some say you shouldn’t go in the room if your child is crying unless there is a problem. I understand this theory teaches them independence and in the long run we (Don and I) will get.
Here is my problem. I can’t deal with Ryan crying, I just really can’t do it. I put myself in his shoes. When I am alone at night in a house I have been known to freak out a bit… imagine if I were in a crib, unable to move, turn on a light and I didn’t understand what was going on. Babies until a certain age don’t understand that when you leave their sight you are coming back. So when Ryan is crying I imagine him thinking that he has been left alone in the dark all by himself forever. With this running through my head, it isn’t really surprising that I run in there whenever he cries.
The truth of the matter is that I know a lot of very confident, trusting, happy people who when they were babies were allowed to cry it out, and a lot of confident, trusting, happy people who were not. I have a feeling it does more to the parent then the child (my personal observation- a lot of very highly trained professionals disagree).
When I was at my art class Tuesday Don let Ryan cry for 4 minutes and he fell back to sleep on his own. I am way more of a push over then Don. Who knows what we will end up doing a week, month or year from now. All I know is Ryan is a very happy, energetic baby who most of the time gets enough sleep no matter what Don and I have both done to screw him up!
Well, some books say you should teach your child to put themselves to sleep by placing them in their cribs while they are still awake, some say you shouldn’t go in the room if your child is crying unless there is a problem. I understand this theory teaches them independence and in the long run we (Don and I) will get.
Here is my problem. I can’t deal with Ryan crying, I just really can’t do it. I put myself in his shoes. When I am alone at night in a house I have been known to freak out a bit… imagine if I were in a crib, unable to move, turn on a light and I didn’t understand what was going on. Babies until a certain age don’t understand that when you leave their sight you are coming back. So when Ryan is crying I imagine him thinking that he has been left alone in the dark all by himself forever. With this running through my head, it isn’t really surprising that I run in there whenever he cries.
The truth of the matter is that I know a lot of very confident, trusting, happy people who when they were babies were allowed to cry it out, and a lot of confident, trusting, happy people who were not. I have a feeling it does more to the parent then the child (my personal observation- a lot of very highly trained professionals disagree).
When I was at my art class Tuesday Don let Ryan cry for 4 minutes and he fell back to sleep on his own. I am way more of a push over then Don. Who knows what we will end up doing a week, month or year from now. All I know is Ryan is a very happy, energetic baby who most of the time gets enough sleep no matter what Don and I have both done to screw him up!
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