Best We Can Do
Sometimes being a mom is really hard. Sometimes you look at your child and realize that at that moment you have NO idea what to do. The scary part is as a mom the buck generally stops with you. You are the final say, you make the final decision, and if it all goes wrong it is essentially your fault.
Ryan has started to develop an attitude, if he doesn’t get his way he pitches a fit. In fact on two occasions he has gotten so angry when told “no” that he has bitten the "offender". What do you do with something like that? As a parent I feel responsible like I somehow taught him to behave that way. Before you judge me, I honestly never give in, when I say “no” I stick with it, even when he throws himself to the ground or throws something I stick to my guns.
I just have to remind myself that he doesn’t always understand why I am saying “no”, he doesn’t see the danger in what he is trying to do. He doesn’t understand why he can run on the sidewalk but not in the road, or why he can play with toys but not electrical cords. I can understand his frustration, he keeps getting told "no" without any real understanding of why.
So if you see me walking down the aisle of the grocery store while my kid screams/ throws a fit please don’t judge me too harshly. Understand that kids are just starting to learn about the world and they haven’t quite got it down yet. When I let Ryan scream in the store it is not because I am too tired or too lazy to do something about it. It is actually that I know if I give in and let him have or do what he wants just to make him quiet that I will be teaching him that screaming is how to get what he wants. I really don't want to teach him that lesson.
Kids test us, that is how they learn. I am trying to be the best teacher I can be. I am taking it one day at a time; I’ve never done this before. I just have to have faith that if I hold my ground he will come out the other side better for it. I don't know if this method is the right one, but I'm the mom and it is my job to try my best, so here I am trying my best.
Until tomorrow when the rules change again...
Ryan has started to develop an attitude, if he doesn’t get his way he pitches a fit. In fact on two occasions he has gotten so angry when told “no” that he has bitten the "offender". What do you do with something like that? As a parent I feel responsible like I somehow taught him to behave that way. Before you judge me, I honestly never give in, when I say “no” I stick with it, even when he throws himself to the ground or throws something I stick to my guns.
I just have to remind myself that he doesn’t always understand why I am saying “no”, he doesn’t see the danger in what he is trying to do. He doesn’t understand why he can run on the sidewalk but not in the road, or why he can play with toys but not electrical cords. I can understand his frustration, he keeps getting told "no" without any real understanding of why.
So if you see me walking down the aisle of the grocery store while my kid screams/ throws a fit please don’t judge me too harshly. Understand that kids are just starting to learn about the world and they haven’t quite got it down yet. When I let Ryan scream in the store it is not because I am too tired or too lazy to do something about it. It is actually that I know if I give in and let him have or do what he wants just to make him quiet that I will be teaching him that screaming is how to get what he wants. I really don't want to teach him that lesson.
Kids test us, that is how they learn. I am trying to be the best teacher I can be. I am taking it one day at a time; I’ve never done this before. I just have to have faith that if I hold my ground he will come out the other side better for it. I don't know if this method is the right one, but I'm the mom and it is my job to try my best, so here I am trying my best.
Until tomorrow when the rules change again...
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